Couples counselling is the process of counselling the parties of a human relationship in an effort to recognize, and to better manage or reconcile troublesome differences and repeating patterns of stress upon the relationship.
Short term couples counselling may be between one to three sessions whereas long term may be between twelve and 24 sessions. An exception is brief or solution-focused couples therapy. In addition, counselling tends to be more 'here and now' and new coping strategies the outcome. Couples counselling is more about seemingly intractable problems with a relationship history, where emotions are the target and the agent of change.
The methods may differ in other ways as well, but the differences may indicate more about the counsellor/therapist's way of working than the title given to their process. At Beyond Trauma Recovery Centre we have years of expertise in couples counselling, and can work towards giving you the results you want.
In love and relationship, we discover the very best parts of ourselves and we also uncover what looks and feels like the worst parts. Relationships are designed to activate these parts of ourselves in order to help us grow, expand and heal these core, emotional wounds we all have from the past.
If individuals in a partnership have a willingness to grow together, couples therapy can help provide the opportunity and tools in a safe, unbiased, non-judgemental space for powerful healing, growth and bonding within relationship to occur.
As humans we all long for connection and want to know that we are not alone. When we can learn to truly understand, see, and hear our partners we can begin to heal our emotional wounds at a deep level, together. This process is a journey from feeling alone to connected, supported and loved for who we are.
One of the main modalities used in couples therapy at Beyond Trauma Recovery Centre is Emotion Focused Therapy.
Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) For Couples:
EFT is an experiential approach with a focus on adult attachment/bonding.
- The ultimate goal being to create and foster a positive, emotional, secure bond between the couple.
Creates a feeling of safety and connectedness within the relationship.
Has a positive effect on mental and physical health, as couples regulate each other’s physiology and emotional functioning.
Has substantial empirical support for its effectiveness (over 30 years of research).
Therapy is brief, usually implemented in 8-20 sessions.
“... the quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives.”